Active Listening
Version 1.0.0 · Updated 2026-07-30
CORE DEFINITION
It is not just 'hearing', but through paraphrasing, confirmation, questioning, and reflecting feelings, proving to the other person that 'I understand you'. Scaffold role: build deep connection. In conversation, don't rush to think about what to say next. Try using 'You mean...' to paraphrase the other person's point, which can instantly lower their defensiveness.
SCAFFOLDING EFFECT
Reduce cognitive load
Build deep connection. In conversation, don't rush to think about what to say next. Try using 'You mean...' to paraphrase the other person's point, which can instantly lower their defensiveness.
Anchor fast decisions
Listening is not just receiving sound, but through paraphrasing, confirmation, and reflecting feelings, proving to the other person that 'being understood', thereby activating a sense of safety and reducing defensiveness. Being understood is itself healing and connection.
MINIMUM ACTION
In progress 0/1Practice this model in one real situation:
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