Self-Compassion
Updated 2026-08-08
INTRODUCTION
English translation pending.
CORE DEFINITION
Developed by Kristin Neff and described in Self-Compassion. Self-compassion has three components: self-kindness, or treating yourself with warmth rather than harsh criticism; common humanity, or recognizing suffering as a shared human experience rather than a personal defect; and mindfulness, or holding painful thoughts in balanced awareness instead of over-identifying with them. Research links it to lower anxiety and depression, greater resilience, and undiminished motivation.
SCAFFOLDING EFFECT
Reduce cognitive load
- Catch the critic: notice harsh self-talk and answer it the way you would a friend - Normalize the setback: remind yourself that this difficulty is shared rather than a personal defect - Hold the feeling: observe the emotion without suppressing it or inflating it
Anchor fast decisions
Self-criticism activates the threat system, which produces rumination, avoidance, and further distress rather than correction. Self-kindness and common humanity instead activate caregiving responses, which lower physiological arousal and make it possible to look at the failure clearly. Because the person is no longer defending against self-attack, attention is freed for the change that actually improves the situation.
MINIMUM ACTION
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- en.wikipedia.orghttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-compassionverified
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