Relationship Motivation Theory
Updated 2026-08-08
INTRODUCTION
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CORE DEFINITION
A sub-theory of self-determination theory, developed by Richard Ryan and Edward Deci. It holds that high-quality relationships satisfy all three basic needs: relatedness, autonomy, and competence. Dependence and control-based attachment do not count, because relationships that require surrendering autonomy satisfy relatedness only superficially. Mutual support for autonomy is therefore central to relationship quality, and need satisfaction within relationships feeds intrinsic motivation and psychological well-being.
SCAFFOLDING EFFECT
Reduce cognitive load
- Diagnose a relationship: check whether it supports autonomy and competence as well as closeness - Remove conditions: stop making acceptance contingent on compliance to restore genuine connection - Support growth: back the other person's independent goals instead of monitoring them
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Relationships that demand compliance satisfy closeness at the cost of autonomy, so the connection must be continuously maintained through monitoring or appeasement. When a relationship supports autonomy and competence as well as relatedness, each person can act from self-endorsed reasons, and closeness no longer competes with independence. The result is connection that sustains motivation rather than draining it.
MINIMUM ACTION
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- en.wikipedia.orghttps://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-determination_theoryverified
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